Firstly, make a decision that you desire real change in your life.
Second, make a decision to be committed to the process of Counselling.
Third, be prepared to work with us to achieve your goal or objective.
Fourth, be patient. Change takes time, so be gentle on yourself.
Clients from as young as 16yrs to a more mature 80+ years. This includes couples, individuals, family groups, extended families, blended families, retirees and so on. Clients from many different geographical locations including remote locations, nationally and overseas.
It is a sign of strength to know your own limits and when to ask for help. Any life challenge can become more serious unless you take action at the onset. Asking for help will support your personal growth and development.
Friends can be supportive and are generally very happy to give advice. However, friends will usually give their own opinion on what to do. This does not empower you to work through your own challenges and to find your own solution, or to be able to gain the skills needed to avoid the same challenge in the future.
Counsellors do not give advice, they are skilled in listening to you, sorting through the issues and then help you objectively challenge what is of concern using empathy and unconditional positive regard. Counsellors are trained to recognise early warning signs of other underlying challenges.
There is no doubt in our Counsellor’s minds that you can handle this yourself; we firmly believe in unconditional positive regard. However, may we point out that you have used your own strategy to arrive at whatever life situation you currently find yourself experiencing.
Do you have another strategy that will help you achieve a different or more desirable outcome?
Our Counsellors will not tell you what to do however, we will help you explore many different options using different approaches and strategies to challenge thoughts and beliefs and, then support you to make the changes necessary to achieve a life experience you desire.
Counsellors are skilled and highly trained in dealing with a large variety of personal and life’s challenges. We can work from an objective and non-judgemental position in order to empower you by providing strategies to better manage challenges as they arise.
It comes back to what value you place on you own experience of life and that of your personal development.
For example, is your marriage or relationship worth saving? Or would you prefer the pain of divorce, legal fees, separating assets, and experiencing the journey through life alone for a while?
What financial investment can you make elsewhere, that will give you a return on your investment in excess of that which you make by investing in your own life and mental health?
We could be so bold as to suggest that this is the ideal time to seek help. Sometimes it takes a life challenge such as this to force someone to ‘sit up and take notice’ and, provide a very real opportunity to take action now.
With Counselling, there is a much better opportunity to repair the relationship and help people to heal. Counselling can also simply help to ensure that each person is equipped with the tools and strategies needed to handle life events and challenges in the future.
Without a personal experience of Counselling, such a friend may not be in the best position to provide advice. Even someone that has tried counselling on one occasion, or someone that has had the experience of not connecting with a Counsellor will only be able to provide details of their own experience.
Most life challenges our clients bring into the counselling room have been a part of everyday life for many years, so it would be unrealistic to expect a total change or resolution in 2 – 3 hours.
The real point here is that this is about you, not your friend. Do you think it will be a waste of time for you?
It is really important to choose a Counselling service with a good reputation. Try asking people you know who they would recommend. We have many clients who are referred by previous clients or business associates.
Perhaps read some of the testimonials on this website. Someone may have written a testimony that resonates with you and relates to what you are experiencing in your own life. Even if your situation is not similar to any of our testimonials, rest assured that we have dealt with many more and varied life events.
Feel free to visit Professional Counselling Association websites for a list of Counsellors in your area.
Perhaps try the Australian Counselling Association: http://www.theaca.net.au/
The reality may be that Counselling cannot wave a magic wand and just make a situation disappear into thin air. Having said that, experience shows that it can certainly make a huge difference in how it affects you and/or your family and, your ability to make difficult decisions to improve a life challenge.
Counselling helps you to develop and identify choices in your life so that you can have a clearer view of the ‘road ahead’.
Counselling assists in many different ways and on many different levels. Counselling can provide strategies and tools to better manage life events at any time. For example, different ways of communicating, different ways of looking at a life event and using different resolution techniques, or managing a current stress.
The Counsellor works towards helping and most importantly empowering the client to achieve a more desirable outcome.
It could be that you didn’t connect with the Counsellor or the Counsellor was working outside their area of expertise.
- Sometimes we have the best intention and make the effort to see a Counsellor however, we may not have been ready to explore a particular life challenge.
- Again, we may have the best intentions however, did not realise that we may not have been committed to change or personal development.
- Unless you try, how will you know if you’re ready or committed or if Counselling will work this time ?